Why Do Women Fall in Love with Bad Men, According to Science?

This is an issue that is generally observed and has even been the subject of scientific research. Women are actually more likely to fall in love with men who have a lot of potential to upset them. While even women could not understand the reason for this, experts sat down and investigated!

A respectful and chaos-free relationship A relationship with ups and downs is more attractive to people because it seems ‘boring’ to manage. If you are experiencing ‘toxic relationships’, which has been on the agenda lately, we have bad news for you: It is not the butterflies in your stomach; Your subconscious mind is telling you “run away, save yourself!” signal.

The classic saying we always hear: “I have butterflies in my stomach!”

There is no person who has not fallen into this cliché at least once in his life. Although it seems to be caused by excitement, this is not actually the case. What we feel as excitement is completely It’s just a concern.

Our brain suddenly secretes adrenaline hormone It perceives it as a danger and prepares the person for all kinds of dangers that may occur. Thus, the accelerated blood flow towards the organs is transferred to the muscles, and as a result, those famous butterflies fly in the stomach.

Healthy feelings do not initially create excitement.

We can compare this to the feeling you get when going to the toilet when you are in a lot of trouble. When you come to the door of the toilet, your needs increase even more. In this case, adrenaline increases, Blood flow to the organs decreases and the intestines become smaller. Because we get excited, we feel more stuck.

“Are love and the need to go to the toilet the same thing?” you may think. You are right, but scientific research also shows that women prefer men who make them feel this ‘butterfly effect’.

Nowadays, the attraction to men with bad characteristics and the interest in such men are becoming increasingly common.

at the University of Huelva A study examined the dynamics behind this trend and reached interesting results. Women experience mostly physical and verbal violence; It has been determined that men are the main perpetrators of sexual and relational violence.

“Bad boy” The model concretely represents masculine characteristics such as bravery, fearlessness and strength. This model also symbolizes callousness by appearing invincible like the epic hero of literature.

toxic behavior Since women find men who display this behavior more “possessive”, they think that this is a sign of love rather than a complex.

Women who are prone to this type of relationship generally tend to form a strong bond with their male friends. Even though there is psychological and sometimes physical violence in the relationship, these women continue to be attached to these men. Especially desire to correct the other personmay be triggering this desire.

Here we will need to touch upon attachment style. Because the deserted man syndrome Living men are generally avoidant attachment types. In psychology, women who are attracted to such men also have an anxious attachment style.

Well, anxiously attached A person finds the person who will trigger his/her anxiety instinct as if he/she has chosen it. He handles this job entirely with his instincts.

A healthy person will generally find it boring for an anxious person. Because the relationship he is used to is not that relationship. Unfortunately, the underlying reason for this situation is are childhood traumas. Because a person who is accustomed to the feelings he experienced in childhood considers the same feelings as his safe and comfortable area when he grows up.

That’s why he thinks that anxiety and being on guard at all times is ‘being safe’. into an unhealthy relationship It means the sails have been raised.

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