What is Jonah Complex?

From the moment they start to stand on their own feet, people find themselves in a relationship with others. race finds in. Although everyone’s goal is to win in this race, in some cases, individuals may find themselves in a situation where they can win. pushing back. Many people see this situation and get angry and say ‘to these individuals who push themselves back’.ungrateful‘ stamps.

So, can this really be interpreted as ungratefulness? To answer this question, for the first time in history Abraham Harold Maslow put forward by Jonah complex we will explain. This situation, which you may be carrying without your knowledge, is in front of your happy future life. a tough barrier can put. He may even have put it, a few times.

In short, where does this Jonah complex come from?

dolphin complex This situation, which can also be encountered as an alternative, takes its name from the story of the prophet with the same name. Briefly, in the story in question, Hz. Dolphin, Nineveh He is sent to his city to warn the people there and show the right way. However, the prophet, who moved away from this duty, sets out by ship to the city of Tarshish, contrary to the order.

A strong attack on the prophet who opposes the given order. the storm is sending and those on board escape the storm by throwing the prophet into the sea. The fish, which most people will remember when they hear it, is Hz. swallowing Yunus 3 day throughout she is holding in her stomach. When he landed again, the prophet fulfilled the order and warned the people of Nineveh and prevented the disaster that befell them.

But Hz. Yunus, this feature first Since he did not use it, he could not fulfill his potential and withdrew from responsibility. This is to date Jonah complex brought.

What are the current examples?

In fact, it will come easy when you work. you know Don’t waste your time instead of studying for a course, go to a job interview where you are sure you will be selected. don’t be lateas an example instead of doing a job you can finish right away don’t mess with the phone We can show many cases such as the present day examples of the Jonah complex.

They look outside and reveal their inner worlds to those who do them. those who do not see The really interesting part starts here:

Why do we avoid these things that will actually benefit us?

This is both personal and social various reasons However, we can group them under two general headings. The first of these is largely personal while there is a reason connected to society We see that living is effective.

Let’s start with the personal: what we’re running away from is responsibility itself.

The job you have right now is fine. successful you can be. In fact, you are so good that all your co-workers think you will get a promotion. definite looks with his eyes. Although it is gratifying to see your success at this point, then the new position brought by the new position fear of responsibilities income.

That means rising from where you are and embracing new responsibilities and new assignments. less makes it preferable. As a result, this situation is relatively easy even if you don’t completely let go of the ropes in your hands. more comfortable somehow it causes you to hold on. So maybe that promotion that most people dream of will be torture for you before it even starts. As a result, you sabotage you do. At this point “What if I can’t?” thought also plays a big role.

Of course, it would be wrong to limit this to the business world. It is possible to come across such situations in many areas of life.

You may be holding back to avoid being isolated from the community:

To explain with a simple example, a group of students speaking from school exams is post-exam. notes Let’s say you’re arguing. All about each other take notes and do this as a solidarity use it as a point.

One of this group of friends should realize that it is not so difficult when he shows enough interest in the lesson, and as a result, he will study and be better than his other friends in the exam. a high note get it. At this point a exclusion condition will occur. Of course, this does not mean that they will stop talking to him and never contact him again.

Rather, in the case we’re talking about, the student who gets a high grade will be left out of the conversations of others on the subject of ‘low grade’. because now he high note field student. He overcame the situation that those with low grades used as a point of solidarity and raised his grade to higher. Well, although his grade is quite high, the conversation with his friends narrowed down Isn’t it normal for him to feel uneasy?

At this point, he can keep his grades high and pursue a better education life or sabotage He can stay with his friends. This is exactly where the Jonah complex separates people. If it sounds familiar, you can stop at this point, question your own behavior and continue reading the content. Now those who suffer from this condition for both personal and social reasons in the common denominator Let’s get to the term: extreme anxiety

Harmful anxieties are everywhere, you can’t ‘run away’ from them

Yup, you will marry You worry when you hate someone. Likewise, when you like someone, you get anxious. work while applying. Anxiety manifests itself in a very large part of our lives. We see this in the Jonah complex as well.

With greater responsibilities load is a cause for concern. Likewise, when it comes to better places, individuals Do not stay alone The possibility is also a cause for concern. All these worries before taking action pushes people to take a step back. So what can we do in this situation?

Start with being honest with yourself, objectively:

What the motivation pages tell you unrealistic rather than tailoring the recommendations to your personality, if any your roughness You must eliminate it. For that, you have to find them first. Because ignoring these imperfections will not destroy them, you will only be covering them up. This is a lifetime don’t lie to yourself entails risk.

But lens looking at it from an angle, you see exactly what the roughness on you is caused by, how it is caused and if you accept your chances of dealing with them increase and a better quality of life is presented to you. You can think of these roughnesses as your concerns. Because if you find the source, it will be easier for you to control them.

In addition, it will be useful to make plans for the future.

Who is with you when you meet certain goals, and what about If you predetermine the details as you are, you can improvise yourself in the future. don’t sabotage your risk also becomes less and less likely.

Finally Maslow’s in this topic adviceAfter you have made progress in being objective with yourself, ‘pride and humility Make sure you keep the balance between.’

Remember, you are the one holding the strings in any situation.

resources: Psychologist Nevzat SARAYCIKLI, Psychology Today, Jonah Calinawan