Misogynistic Insults and Violent ‘Beliefs’

We often discuss what the internet and social media have added to and taken from our lives. Well, what are the dimensions of these gains and losses, which are generally related to social relations and human psychology? Have we ever thought about how serious it could be?

So yes, scientists who conduct research on these issues are aware of this. But our subject is not them, it is a 15-year-old teenager who spends almost all his waking time on any platform on the Internet, or an antisocial person who is excluded, trying to create his own social world on the Internet.

These people, whether male or female, increasingly trapped in their ‘online world’they are led to wrong thoughts and disappear… Incel is a ‘community’ that has come together with many people who ‘think like them’ and magnifies the hatred towards women, and unfortunately the thoughts of this community have led to the death of dozens of people.

No one can punch you in the online world…

Because our online lives are so secure (!), especially when there is a ‘blessing’ like ‘anonymity’. of a space where we drown in our own echo chamber We don’t even think it’s possible that it’s affecting us badly. It’s pretty hard to spot anyway. Because the job of the algorithm is to show us what we want.

For example, we say that we hate apples, let’s see what! We are not alone, there are a lot of people who don’t like apples. and obviously not liking apples is quite normal and ‘correct’ thought… So if there is an apple lover once in a while, what can he do? He’s not in the mood to punch us, jump off the screen, talk a little, leave… After all, we’re right, look how crowded we are!

‘I hate women, it’s impossible for my life to get better, so I must kill and die’

The concept of Incel became established in internet culture for the first time in the 1990s, when it was used on a website established by a Canadian student. This is our friend by sharing their ‘non’ relationship and sexuality experiences Waiting for comments, then on this website people of all genders begin to tell their own non-sexual and non-relationship stories.

On the basis of the event ‘excluded’, ‘marginal’ ‘marginalized and isolated due to mental health problems’ There’s the idea of ​​being able to talk about sexuality and relationship issues on an inclusive platform. In time, the word ‘incel’ started to be used as an abbreviation on the site where these ‘reluctant singles’ came together. In other words, it had nothing to do with misogyny or ‘poor men’ in his departure. But unfortunately things have changed…

Today, incels use this expression as an abbreviation for the word “involuntary celibate” (‘reluctant bachelors’). This as the justification for ‘reluctant celibacy’ on the other hand, by choosing men based on their unfortunate and never-recoverable genetics (like not having a muscular body or sharp facial features), their psychology, their social status, and all they know is these criteria. which is to turn ‘poor’ men off the line They show women. Incels give the name ‘chad’ to ‘genetically correct’ and ‘lucky’ men.

According to the Incels, women are inferior, sex, money and status-loving creatures. According to the thins women’s increasing ’empowerment’ and increased freedom to choose their own partners It’s a big mistake and these women deserve the worst punishment. When we say punishment here, unfortunately, we are talking about a wide scale from rape to death.

Again, they separate themselves, men who are ‘handsome’ ‘muscular’ ‘rich’ and will make a woman ‘feel like a princess’ While women’s only target, the incels, who do not have these, do not hesitate to openly call themselves pathetic, hate themselves and their destiny, pity each other, and turn this pain into hatred and violence.

Especially, people who come together on platforms such as Reddit, magnify their poisonous thoughts by interacting with each other and feeding them. However, after the great debates in recent years, platforms such as Reddit, subreddits where incels come together, etc. Despite this, published reports show that there was a 59% increase in ‘mass murder’ messages published by incellers between 2021 and 2022.

Incels became the main characters of murder and suicide news…

People who are ‘incel’, who feed and grow their hatred by spending time in the forums where the incel people come together, in the past They became the main characters of many bad events. Almost all of the incidents ended in murder and then suicide.

For example, in 2009 a man named George Sodini first killed three women, then killed himself. Footprints on the internet showed that he was an ‘incel’. He hated women and wanted them dead… What’s more frightening is that what this man did as ‘going Sodini’ turned into a ‘statement’ and glorified among his thin communities…

In the following years dozens of similar cases.Many people who describe themselves as thin, talk about hatred of women on forums and social media, and often express their thoughts such as suicide, murder and rape have killed and died. Moreover, when one of them talks about suicidal thoughts, instead of trying to stop him, he instigates murder with statements such as “since you’re going to go, don’t go alone”.

These people, who are far from common sense, self-confidence and conscience, because they avoid taking responsibility for solving their personal problems and being a healthy individual.Dozens of innocent people lost their lives…

Why would a person do this to himself?

We have seen examples of the harm that the hatred of the Incels can cause, and I want to talk about why one throws oneself into such a pit of trauma, how one can normalize hatred so much.

To make a simple drawing of the audience that says ‘incel’; male, usually heterosexual, often with a history of rejection by a womanWe are talking about a community that spreads to a wide audience between the ages of 14-35.

But there are more critical commonalities. Almost all of the incels they hate their own body, life and social status. They feel that they are in a hopeless position, that they have never had a chance to experience sex or a romantic relationship and never will.

Because according to them their appearance depends on their bad genetics and they cannot change it, their status and social life are also hindered in this way, especially by women, and they cannot develop it either. Men who constantly give orders to women on how they should look, tell them how to live their lives, and don’t hesitate to kill when it’s not the way they want, hate women because they can’t do what they want anymore… Quite ironic…

Especially at a young age, the answers received in the communication with the other party for sex or a romantic relationship can adversely affect the psychology of the person. Also again regardless of the person’s gender The fact that he cannot bear the burdens placed on him by society and cannot find a label to which he is included also affects his psychology very badly.

In such scenarios, it is necessary for these people to receive support, to make peace with themselves, and to pave the way for them to become social individuals. However, for thinners, the situation is the opposite. Because they feel they belong and admitted their ‘poorness’, moreover, they find a community that has succeeded in turning this ‘psychology of inferiority’ into hatred and directing it to another source. As such, rather than trying to discover and accept themselves. they prefer to spew hate and not take responsibility. Although this is a terrible behavior and a wrong way, unfortunately the easiest way for an individual in that psychology… Therefore, their number is increasing.

The ‘fake lives’ inflated by social media and internet culture are quite effective on thin people.

As you’ve noticed so far, thinners are in constant competition. For a woman to ‘choose them’ they should be handsome, rich, powerful believes; And because they can’t be like that, they are filled with despair and hatred. Then they justify killing, rape and violence on their own.

This brutal, inhumane viewpoint very far from reality reflected in social media and even porn culture product of a landscape. Because, unfortunately, it is true that such a perception is reflected… How young people who use social media look, what they have, what kind of life they live, how beautiful or handsome they are means ‘everything’ to them.

This puts tremendous pressure on all young people, regardless of gender. Young women and men who try to look like ‘that woman/man’ with aesthetics, those who try to take photos with their logo on their car, those who try to make their lives as colorful as possible, those who give up their own reality to make them look beautiful and rich…

Another crime is the sexuality and life of women. the idea that it should be under the control of the man alone in nurturing societies. The woman becomes the wife of the man chosen for her, gives him children, does whatever he wants. When he tries to choose his partner, of course, he must be punished… This sick thought, choosing to deny their own shortcomings and responsibilitiesturns into a terrible trump card used by unconscious, ignorant and evil people…

In 2022, those who still make women’s individual rights and freedoms a subject of discussion, those who talk about the ‘right and wrong’ of women’s freedoms, besides endangering the lives of millions of women, cause many such far-fetched events…

On how to be ‘the most ideal’ for both men and women those who try to draw boundaries, Those who don’t stop making silly sentences that start with ‘what you call a woman’ and ‘what you call a man’ they should be equally responsible and ready to suffer remorse.

Sources: Center For Research and Evidence on Security Threats, BBC News, The Conversation, The New Yorker