“Premature ejaculation” means that the penis ejaculates within 1 minute after it enters the vagina. We discussed the reasons for this situation in terms of evolution and psychology.
Men usually do not compromise their self-confidence. exaggerating sex times they are concerned about looking cool, but the actual times are much lower. Due to the exaggeration of the adult film industry, this situation creates a psychological pressure on men.
of scientistsThis pressure is unwarranted when you learn of the results after therapists examine multiple couples.
According to various academic articles, the average duration of vaginal sex takes 4-7 minutes.
Even this period is considered long, because the average duration of 43% of couples 2 minutes is around. Netherlands, England, Spain, Turkey and in a study involving 500 couples from the USA, the average ejaculation time was measured as 6.5 minutes for those aged 18-30 years, and 4.3 minutes for those over the age of 51.
Ejaculation time for frequent sex couples 10-20 minutes While it was seen that it lasted for a long time, it was found that the average of those who had less sex was between 2-7 minutes.
The fact that the ejaculation time is actually short suits evolution.
Because although people often have sex for pleasure, it’s actually the main purpose of sex is to reproduce. It is sufficient for evolution for the sperm to reach the vagina.
This is also the case with animals, with exceptions.
If we look at the exceptions; A rodent species called brown antechinus can mate for 14 hours. Rattlesnakes can mate for 23 hours. If pigs for 30 hours they can discharge.
There are several reasons why ejaculation time varies in people.
Some couples prefer a long lovemaking, while others fast and hard may want. Biological factors are also very effective. Factors such as hormonal changes, vaginal dryness, low libido can affect ejaculation time.
Men who ejaculate prematurely may experience guilt, shame, disappointment, decreased sexual satisfaction, uncontrolled ejaculation, and sexual reluctance over time.
So, what kind of situations cause premature ejaculation?
- Masturbation done in inappropriate environments in youth,
- sexual superstitions,
- Inexperience in sexual intercourse
- Fatigue, boredom, restlessness,
- unrealistic expectations about sexuality,
- Lack of sexual stimulation
- Failure to meet the necessary conditions,
- Disproportionate importance given to the hardened penis,
- Growing up under sexual pressure
- The tension caused by excessive sexual desire,
- sin or guilt,
- Fear of getting sick
- Unexplained fear or rejection of the partner,
- fear of conceiving,
- castration anxiety,
- Fear of partner disappointment
- Fear of not inoculating the vagina,
- reluctance towards women,
- conflict with partner
- Fear of being discovered by others,
- Excessive interest, commitment and love to the partner,
- Relationships established for money or brothel habit,
- sexual incompatibility,
- Negative thoughts about sexual intercourse lying in the subconscious,
- Prostatitis, urethritis etc. diseases,
- penile hypersensitivity,
- Neurological injuries at T12-L1 level,
- Sudden discontinuation of narcotic or antipsychotic therapy, etc.
To delay premature ejaculation, the “stop-start” technique can be applied in sexual therapy.
More than a minute when the feeling of ejaculation occurs expected for a short time and then the penis is stimulated again. In this way, after stopping 3 times, discharge is allowed in the fourth. Here, high levels of arousal just before ejaculation become experienced before ejaculation occurs, with repeated prolonged reliving of sensations just before ejaculation. In this way ejaculation control Once achieved, sexual intercourse is gradually allowed in a woman-on-top position.
During sexual intercourse, when the feeling approaches, the penis is inside. keeping still is expected, after a while, the stimulation starts again. For men who do not have a regular sexual partner or who cannot participate in sexual therapy with their partner for any reason, treatment begins with masturbation exercises.
Position during sexual intercourse also has an effect on ejaculation. Therefore, ejaculation is faster in some positions.
Classical sexual intercourse position with the man on top (missionary position) It is not a favorable position for delaying ejaculation. The man can control his ejaculation more easily in a position where the man is more comfortable, relaxes easily and does not exert effort, holds the woman in his lap or lies on his back. Also in these positions women They can reach a faster and more comfortable orgasm.
Medication can also be applied. (For detailed information on this subject, please contact your doctor.)
The following drugs are generally recommended:
- Dapoxietin (Studies are still in progress, it is not available in the market.)
- Fluoxetine, sertaline, clomipramine, etc., which improve ejaculation time. medicines,
- Anxiety relievers,
- Herbal blended aphrodisiacs,
- Local numbing creams or lotions etc.
Delayed ejaculation or no ejaculation can also cause serious problems.
As with most sexual dysfunctions, men delayed ejaculation problem In general, it emerges depending on the way of upbringing with strict moral rules. Perception of sexuality as a shame, bad, sin, sexual traumas experienced in childhood are wrong, exaggerated about sexuality. superstitions It is among the factors that cause problems in sexual intercourse.
In addition, lack of sexual knowledge and lack of sexual experience are among the important reasons. In addition, the person experiencing performance anxietyFrequent masturbation and getting used to it can also cause delayed ejaculation problems during sexual intercourse.
However, if ejaculation does not occur at all, the problem the possibility of an organic cause is very high. Some antidepressant drugs used, prostate surgeries, neurological diseases (such as Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s), frequent alcohol consumption can also cause delayed ejaculation in men.
In summary; If you are well below or above these average times, you may want to seek treatment.
The long ejaculation times exaggerated by adult movies do not reflect reality. If you think that the interval of 2-7 minutes is appropriate and that you ejaculate early even though you are in this time range. cause an unnecessary loss of self-confidence you must not forget.
Sources: Sexual Health Institute Association, Çağrı Mert Bakırcı (Evolution Tree), Healthline, ÇADEM Psychology
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