There is no single definition of cheating for everyone. However, in a subject whose boundaries are not so clear, of course, there are micro situations that can be considered more innocent.
Micro-cheating is with others even though you are in a relationship. small close encounters It’s the name given to you being in it. There is no physical intimacy, such as kissing or making love, as in the kind of cheating we know.
This vague actionssubtly harms the couple’s romantic relationship. Some couples don’t mind, while others can be seriously hurt. What counts as cheating actually depends on the couple. You know that some couples may also prefer open relationships. So micro cheating is a relative, we will discuss this issue through the relationship of monogamous couples.
So what could be involved in these vague actions?
The following behaviors/thoughts are included in microcheating:
- Being emotionally or sexually electrified with people you find attractive (like being attracted to a coworker even though you’re in a relationship)
- Fantasizing about emotional intimacy with others (like having fantasies about your girlfriend’s friend, even if it never happens physically)
- Sighing at people who are found attractive and beautiful (Sneaking on someone else’s profile on social media, sighing when you see someone on the street, etc.)
- Actions/thoughts, such as looking longingly at photos of your ex, imagining them in bed
- Looking for alternatives when you feel resentful in your relationship (Having backups)
- Regularly trying to quench your sexual urges through social media or other digital means
- Trying to be more well-groomed on days when you know you will see the other person
- Trying not to indicate to the person you are electrified that you are in a relationship (Even if you say it, making sentences like “It’s new, we’ll see in time”)
- Thinking “Did he like it, did he look at my story” when you share a photo that you look beautiful on Instagram?
If you are doing these, you may want to ask yourself these questions:
- What would my partner think/feel if he knew I was doing these things?
- Does the fact that I do this distance me from my partner?
- How would I feel if he did?
What does micro cheating in your relationship mean?
This subtle form of cheating often starts spontaneously. The electrification at a business lunch, a message from an old date, or a workout together at the gym can turn into intimacy. Many people have these interactions. without turning it into cheating lives.
There are many reasons for cheating. The person may feel good when they are with the person whose partner they cheated on. When he cheats, he can feel sexier, smarter, more attractive. He may feel invisible, boring, dull when hanging out with his partner. the person himself may be out of character quite of course.
How to deal with micro-cheating in a relationship?
If micro-cheating has become a problem in your relationship, discuss it. talk to your partner. It is important that the person performing the microcheating understands how their partner is feeling and commits to changing their behavior.
Once these micro-relationships end, both parties can strive to rebuild their relationship if they wish. A consulting a couples therapistTalking about your partner’s and your own needs can be very helpful in repairing the damaged relationship.
Due to a micro cheat The relationship doesn’t have to end. If both people in a relationship are open to learning their share of the problems in the relationship, willing to learn how to take responsibility for themselves, they can actually build a much better relationship than before.