Life of Friends’ Chandler, Matthew Perry

Your mother is a beauty queen, your father is a famous actor, your schoolmate is a prime minister, yourself Could you be happy if you were a millionaire?

Chandler from Friends, one of the world’s most popular TV series Matthew PerryEven though he had all of these things, he was always disappointed when it came to happiness. Perry, who struggled with addictions throughout his life, passed away on October 28.

One day, a man comes to the city…

In 1986, a young man came to Los Angeles. his mother Canada beauty queen, his father is a famous actor who has been the face of advertisements of famous brands. When he wrote about those days in his memoirs, he said, “I desired fame more than anyone else in the world. I needed fame. It was the only thing that could fix me. “I was sure of that.” The man who would say this would never stop on the path to his goal.

Matthew, whose parents divorced when he was a child, grew up in divided homes with the feeling that both parties had abandoned him. During his childhood, which was spent mostly in Ottawa, Canada, due to his mother’s profession, Perry felt loneliness the most. to be funny He would say that he learned it at that time.

In fact, he also saw his father as his hero, “even though he saw his face mostly in magazines and on television.” Lack of role model, With his mother not being around him, Matthew started to become an aggressive and troubled child.

after 10 years old stealing money, smoking Such habits began to emerge. His grades were going bad at school and he was in frequent fights. Prime Minister of Canada today Justin Trudeau He beat him when he was a classmate with him.

His first encounter with alcohol, which would plague him throughout his life, was at the age of 13.

Trying to hide his feeling of abandonment, Perry often He was trying to cover up his problems in other ways. When he finally came to California from Canada, he decided to turn his focus to acting, even though he was a good tennis player.

In fact, Perry describes his problems as “He had addictions, that’s why.” It wouldn’t be right to lower it to that level. Since Perry was a baby and cried a lot and had difficulty sleeping, he Some medications were given under doctor’s supervision. Don’t pay attention to what we call a doctor’s check, none of those drugs are used today, those active ingredients are not allowed. In fact, baby Matthew was thrown into the arms of addictions from that very day.

He found himself in Friends.

Perry, who started his career with the TV series Charles in Charge and Growing Pains, later appeared in the TV series Sydney and Home Free. His big breakthrough came with a new comedy series project, “Friends Like Us” or as it is known friends He would do it with.

When we look at Friends and Perry’s relationship in terms of actor-producer harmony, It was like love at first sight. In his later statements, Perry said, “It was as if someone had followed me for a year, stolen my jokes, copied my mannerisms, photocopied my life-weary but still playful outlook on life. One character in particular stood out to me. It wasn’t about me thinking I could play Chandler.” I was Chandler himself.” he said.

The role of Chandler was actually in danger for a while. Perry was the producers’ first choice, but had committed to a production set in 2194 about baggage handlers at the Los Angeles Airport. Fortunately, that production did not take place and Matthew Perry, Chandler Bing aspect He became the youngest and last member of the team to join.

The series also put pressure on Perry.

Perry also stated in his biography that filming a series can be painful at times. “While the series is shot with a live audience, I felt like I was going to die if the audience didn’t laugh enough. Of course, this wasn’t a healthy situation, but sometimes I would make a one-word joke and they wouldn’t laugh. I started sweating too, I would have spasms. I would fall apart when I couldn’t get the required amount of laughter out. I felt this every night. “This pressure affected me very badly.” he wrote. He tried to drown his problems with alcohol, but he was disappearing into the bottles.

Although Perry increased his struggle with alcohol at that time with the warnings and support of his co-stars, his performance was up and down. The jet ski accident he had in 1997 made things much worse, because during treatment he Vicodin He became addicted to the painkiller called. It was alcohol, it was medicine, then in 2000 pancreatitis He had to be hospitalized because of it.

He was connected to a breathing machine.

Perry, to the breathing machine In an interview in which he talked about a period when he had to connect, “I was hospitalized for 5 months and they connected me to an ecmo machine. Doctors told my family that I might not be able to get out of there.. Most of the people connected to that machine died. That night five people, including mine, were hooked up to that machine, only I survived, others died. I’m sorry that my family heard that I wouldn’t make it out of the hospital alive. “Maybe I should have been very happy to be alive, but I was very sad and angry because my family heard these words.” He also used the following expressions:

In 2018, Perry was suspended due to excessive opioid use. his large intestine burst. For this reason, Perry was hospitalized for a while and then needed additional treatment and precautions for 9 months. Afterwards, Perry continued his struggle with addictions and tried to help others.

“Lived well, loved well…”

Perry, who lived with a feeling of inadequacy and inadequacy throughout his life, also reflected this situation in his bilateral relations. Actually, when Friends first started Jennifer AnistonHe had an interest in , but this interest was not reciprocated. Julia RobertsTricia Fisher, Lizzy Caplan, Yasmine Bleet He had relationships with people like. Explaining his ideas on this subject, Perry said: “I need love, but I also can’t trust it. If I let go of my Chandler role and really show you who I am, you might notice me, or worse, you might abandon me, and I can’t stand that.” he said.

Perry in Malibu Beach 10 million dollar house In 2012, he turned it into a rehabilitation center called Perry House. Even though he sold the house two years later, he continued to support the fight against addiction. He was aware that addiction was a type of mental illness and was trying to support many people in overcoming their addictions.

He also covered up his own past, so much so that he did not want to see the image of himself from the times when he used alcohol or drugs. He hadn’t even watched the TV series Friends. In this process 7 million dollars He attended 6,000 alcoholics anonymous meetings, was admitted to the clinic 15 times, and received psychological support for 30 years.

As Matthew Perry put it in one of his last interviews, “Lived well, loved well, was a seeker and, most importantly, wanted to help others.” He said he wanted to be remembered as. Perry, who will truly be remembered as such, passed through our lives as a figure who made us laugh and hurt, and who warned and enlightened people about addiction.