It is very difficult to forget someone who made butterflies fly in your stomach for the first time. No matter how much time passes, the place of the first person you fell in love with for the first time, the first time you felt belonged, will always be different. Although it may seem like a purely emotional event at first glance, all these things have to do with the hormones secreted in your body.
No matter how old we are, what the first person we fell in love with made us feel. always with a beautiful smile we remember. Even though we draw our own path and step into new beginnings, the place of our first love is always different.
Some people have a hard time taking a new step after their first love. In a way that you can’t understand, especially if you’re still in your 19s or even 20s. your feelings about your first love come back to haunt you always. While it may seem like a purely emotional or psychological thing, science actually has a solid answer for why you can’t forget your first love.
First, let’s take a look at how falling in love affects our body.
If you think falling in love is as simple as being attracted to someone you like, let’s say in advance that you are wrong. when you fall in love something is going on in our body and unfortunately it is not possible for us to control them.
From the moment you start falling in love, your brain is such as vasopressin, adrenaline and dopamine begins to secrete a series of hormones that stimulate neural receptors. When we say butterflies are flying in our stomach, these hormones are what cause these butterflies to come out of their cocoons and fly.
From the moment these hormones are secreted, you start to feel happy, enthusiastic and safe. In fact, the level of confidence you feel goes up to such a high level that you suddenly feel yourself constantly. dreaming of hugging the person you love you find.
While you are experiencing all these feelings due to the hormone explosion, your pupils will dilate, your palms will sweat, feeling nauseous and dizzy starting. You may even feel exhausted, tired and “devoid ofYou can even feel it.
A small spark of love is all it takes for everything we mentioned above, but if you take things a step further and have sex with the other person, all these hormones will go away. turns the effect of a small spark into a fireball and what you are experiencing at that moment leaves a permanent place in your brain.
The strongest source of the problem is that we have a fresh memory.
We weren’t kidding when we said that the effect of hormones leaves a permanent place in your brain. Our brain records the moments when all these emotions are experienced and how fresh our memory is lived “he understands”, takes their place in the strongest way.
This is exactly why we can’t forget our first love. Although some people are exceptions, most of us in adolescence with our first love we meet; that is, when our memory is at its freshest.
Good news; You can fall in love again. Bad news; Your first love will always have a special place.
Al Pacino’s Lawyer of the devil he has a very nice saying about love in his movie;
-What about love?
-It’s overrated. Biochemically, it’s no different than eating a lot of chocolate.
Apart from the hormones mentioned above, another very important hormone is secreted when you fall in love; oxytocin. Just like Al Pacino said, secreted when too much chocolate is eaten same hormone. Known as the love hormone, oxytocin is the most important factor that makes people monogamous. This hormone causes you to become more attached to the opposite side and lower the sails to the water.
If you fell in love for the first time during adolescence, all these feelings you experience because of hormones. at the most important stage of personal development you are learning. So, although it is not obvious, the other party becomes a big part of your personal development.
All those emotions you experience, your happiness, your tears become one of the iron stones that make you who you are. Not all, of course, but most of your character is shaped accordingly. For example, if you have a first love experience that distances you from who you really are and decide to move on with your life alone, become a person with certain lines and boundaries. you transform.
Long story short, according to science, love is one of the biggest factors that make us who we are. Therefore, throughout our lives, especially the feelings, memories, traces of our first love. to carry through life We will continue.
Memories that leave a trace are destined to be triggered one day
If you realize that your first love left some lasting marks on your brain, It is also possible that these traces will reappear one day. you need to know. Events such as a song you listen to when you are together, or passing by a cafe you go to all the time can trigger the traces engraved in your brain and bring your first love back to you.
Don’t worry, science has an answer for your obsessive love.
Everyone’s grieving period is different. According to a study published in The Journal of Positive Psychology about 11 weeksmay be enough to make you forget your ex. Of course, this period can be much longer in married people and in the first couples; After all, it will not be easy to completely delete the person with whom you have experienced a flood of emotions from your life.
Science, on the other hand, attributes the love that you have been obsessed with for years to a lack of serotonin. Researchers from University College London have found that people in love send signals from one part of the brain to another. that they are deprived of serotonin they discovered.
The same level of serotonin deficiency diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder It is also found in patients, and according to scientists, this is one of the most important answers to explaining how people become obsessed with the person they love.