The number of people who do not want children in our country and around the world is increasing rapidly. So, what are the factors that affect the decision to want or not to have children? Why aren’t the majority of people looking forward to the idea of having children anymore?
Those who do not want to have children, in their daily life often “you will pass; Is there a problem; the child saves the marriage; you look for someone to take care of you when you get old; the child is the joy of the house; When you become a mother, you wish you had done it earlier; You understand that feeling when you hold it for the first time; have children so we can love grandchildren…” encounters cliché words.
The reasons for avoiding having children are one of the most questioned issues by society. The question of why people today are more distant from the thought of bringing a child into the world than in the past. with the help of experts We explained it for you.
Ideology against bringing a child into the world: Antinatalism
Antinatalism; Based on reasons such as unethical giving birth to children without their consent, environmental concerns due to population growth, climate crisis and global warming, genetic inheritance concerns, economic concerns, mental health deterioration of those who have children, and the fact that the child will suffer when they are born. against having children is an ideology.
All these reasons advocated by antinatalists, bringing a child into the world gets ahead of it. Although the meaning of the word “antinatalism” is not known today, the number of those who support this ideology is increasing day by day.
The change in the position of women in society has also changed the approach to the idea of having children.
With the changing social consciousness, women started to take a more place in business life. Now, as before, “the women’s part stays at home; looks after her child, cooks, cleans. your old-fashioned thoughts were replaced by the ideas that “women should be as involved in business life as men, gain their economic freedom, have equal opportunities and salaries”.
As such, the duties of a woman and a man in social life came closer to each other and the responsibility of looking after children began to fall into the background. Now for women, a child is a “liberty-restricting” thing. Women, who have to stay connected to the house by being positioned in the house to take care of a child, do not want to prefer this.
To be or not to be a mother is a simple choice that only the woman can decide.
Academician According to Pınar Eke; While a man achieves his social status with his work, women social existence she only gets approval by motherhood.
Just “not wanting” to have children is not considered a reasonable reason for women, and then “do you have a health problem, who will take care of you when you get old, your husband doesn’t?” They are faced with questions such as: To be or not to be a mother only women can decide It’s a simple choice.
The desire to be a mother is not an innate instinct imposed on women.
Kiss. Dr. İlter Yenidede states that not every woman has an innate instinct to be a mother, but that motherhood is a socially assigned role. Moreover; There will not be a woman who wants to be a mother only on the basis of hormones, only in the period when her hormones are high. from sexual desire Emphasizes a higher chance of getting pregnant.
Gynecologist İlter Yenidede adds: Almost all of the reasons that make reproduction necessary are social. In countries where people die from disease at an early age or where there is war, the reproductive number is increasing because protection of the population necessary. In countries with low human mortality rates, birth rates are low. It’s not genes that determine this, it’s social structure.
Changes in living conditions in the past also affect the parameters of bringing a child into the world.
Another reason why people were more inclined to the idea of children in the past is that children in the past “labor” was seen as. As the number of children increased, the number of workers in the family also increased. However, as this thought began to change from the 1950s, the attitude towards childbearing began to change.
Another reason to avoid having children: Economy
Of course, when we look at today’s conditions, it is difficult to avoid having children. economic dimension undeniably many.
Beyond the special needs of a baby who comes to the world until a certain age, in this period when we start to have difficulties even while meeting our own needs or providing for a house; such as education, housing, nutrition. basic needs It was very difficult to even afford it financially.
Other reasons to prevent having children:
- People who are mothers are adequately regulated by the state. not supported
- raising a child a shared responsibility still not fully approved in our country and in the world
- His life is more than before mobile and busy progress
- responsibility anxiety
- career plans
- The experiences of LGBTI+ individuals about having a child social difficulties.
Reasons for not wanting children, according to US data:
- 56%: He just doesn’t want
- 19%: Medical
- 17%: Economic
- 15%: No partner
- 10%: Age
- 9%: world situation
- 5%: climate crisis
The fertility rate in Turkey has been on a rapid decline in the last 2 years.
fertility rate; that a person can give birth to in his lifetime is the total number of children.
Calculated in 2000 in Turkey fertility rate While it was 2.50 children, this number decreased to 1.88 children in 2020.
- Sources: Sociologist Sinem Elif Asar Erdem, BBC, +90